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mysid ([personal profile] mysid) wrote2007-09-09 04:38 am
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The question which should never be asked

Hubby and I had "a night out" tonight. He was in a golf tournament this weekend, and tonight was a dinner-dance-thingy at the golf club.

I left the house feeling good. My hair had cooperated, my makeup looked good, and I'd found an outfit that fit, was comfortable, and looked pretty good--I thought. I was feeling as pretty as a heavy girl can.

I spotted my mother-in-law at the party and went over to say hello. She introduced me to the two women she was speaking to. One asked, "So, when are you due?"

I said, with a smile, "I'm not pregnant," and watched the mortification begin to creep over her face.

My MIL, trying desperately to change the subject, said, "Jennifer is the one I told you has twins." (The two women she was conversing with were married to a pair of twins.)

Rude woman seized on it as her out, "Oh, were they just born?" Please tell me it's babyweight.

"No, they're seven years old."



I am embarassed to say, this wasn't the first time I've been asked this horrible question, but each time, I hope I'll never hear it again. I know that woman will never, ever ask it of anyone again, but does everyone in the world have to ask me before they learn not to put their feet in their mouths?
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[identity profile] lls-mutant.livejournal.com 2007-09-09 05:56 pm (UTC)(link)
::hugs:: That really sucks, and was quite rude. (I never ask when a woman is due unless she's just said, "guess what? I'm pregnant!" It was actually kind of funny because most of my neighbors were guessing I might be, and were afraid to ask.)

People like that should be bonked on the head.

[identity profile] mysid.livejournal.com 2007-09-11 02:10 am (UTC)(link)
I'm the same way. I once went to a party at which another guest was an old college friend. She was very pregnant (triplets!), but she'd always been heavy. Neither Hubby nor I dared to presume that she was pregnant until she actually said so.